A Caregiver Audio That You Need to Listen To!

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Jack Tatar speaks to Diana Denholm, author of The Caregiver’s Handbook about the challenges of caregiving.  In this powerful audio, Diana discusses her experiences being a caregiver to her husband.  Through this experience, Diana provides advice for each and every person who is either an existing caregiver or potentially in the role of being a future caregiver.

Diana writes the following about her book, “When we are with loved ones who are dying, the day-to-day matters of your role in their care, your previous roles, your own self-care, your ongoing lives, household management, sleep, sex and intimacy, changes in and strains on your marriages, and current and future finances are all right in your face. Practical issues continue that require action on your part. Some require important communication between you and your loved ones or other family members. Which issues should you discuss or shouldn’t you discuss with your loved one? How do you sort out these issues? And then, how should you handle the issues themselves?”

In this audio, Jack and Diana have an extended conversation as part of Jack’s podcast series, ‘A Safe Retirement’ about Diana’s book and the topic of caregiving.  It’s a MUST hear for those concerned with caregiving.  Please listen to it here:


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  1. I was my mother’s pmariry caregiver to Alzheimer’s. And if I had heard someone suggest that I embrace Alzheimer’s while I was in the thick of care giving trenches, I would have quickly dismissed the advice as superficial and one-dimensional. But as a recovering caregiver, I realize the power of that statement. Unintentionally and unrehearsed, I did embrace Alzheimer’s during the early stages of this journey, and that very act fundamentally defined my experience, converting an otherwise stressful journey into a mindful and meaningful series of life lessons.In the beginning I’ll admit that I was afraid of the disease because I didn’t want to lose my mother to the tangles of this fatal disease. I simply wasn’t emotionally prepared to let that happen because it meant letting her go.So I did my best to keep connected to her, by doing what I could. I prepared homemade, single-portioned meals to fill her refrigerator. If she was going to lose her mind, I thought, let it happen on a full stomach. At the very least, it made me feel like I was still in charge. But during those quiet moments when truth becomes easier to swallow, I would admit to myself that my mother was falling apart before my very eyes and it would put me into a panic-stricken tailspin. Like anything in life, the more I looked truth in the eye, the less panic I felt.Gradually I stopped trying to teach her how to use the TV remote, heat up leftovers in a microwave, and hold a telephone. I stopped trying to squeeze her back into the reality that we had once shared because that approach ended up being a source of aggravation to us both. By leaving the ‘denial’ stage and embracing Alzheimer’s, I liberated myself from the fear that Alzheimer’s would steal my mother’s love. And if I still felt unsure or afraid of my mother’s disease, I would remind myself that ‘when life hands you Alzheimer’s, embrace it.Celia PomerantzAlzheimer’s: A Mother Daughter Journey

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